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Why letting your kids struggle is good parenting

2019-03-01T10:26:42-04:00November 15th, 2016|Categories: Matthew Ruttan|Tags: , , , , , , , |

The opposite of good parenting is doing the easy thing in the short term. Now don’t get me wrong. There’s a certain parenting high when we just “let kids be kids,” stay up late, go for the sugary cereal, and wear pajamas all Saturday. I love all the ways we [...]

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3 Ways to Curb Sibling Rivalry

2019-04-17T15:16:10-04:00September 1st, 2016|Categories: Matthew Ruttan|Tags: , , , , , , , |

If you have kids you’ve probably thought about sibling rivalry. It’s kind of like debt or a skin rash: You don’t think about it until you have to deal with it yourself! Plus, parenting zips along so fast it’s not like any of us have a week to lock ourselves [...]

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And suddenly, he is drawing.

2016-06-20T14:35:38-04:00June 20th, 2016|Categories: Blogs, The Messy Table|Tags: , , , |

And suddenly, he is drawing. Last week, Plum drew a picture of his Daddy, complete with beard. This week, ladybugs, leaves, aliens with eyebrows and even a self-portrait. It’s wonderful watching all this erupt. Of course, we’ve seen his creativity before – his playing with language, sorting the world out by [...]

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The One Question Every Child, Tween & Teen Silently Asks Their Parents

2016-05-27T10:21:38-04:00May 27th, 2016|Categories: Matthew Ruttan|Tags: , , , , , , |

Every single parent I know wants to do a good job raising their kids. But after that, the unanimity about how to do it usually goes out the window. We want them to be successful and well-adjusted. We want them to work hard and be kind. We want them to develop a [...]

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Who Will My Daughter Marry? (A Letter to Dads with Daughters)

2016-03-18T16:05:08-04:00March 18th, 2016|Categories: Matthew Ruttan|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

You and I both wonder, Who will my daughter marry? No matter who it is, the young punk (er, I mean, young man) will most certainly not be worthy of her! I think of that Dierks Bentley song, What Was I Thinkin’: She snuck out one night and met me by the [...]

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Giving Your Kids The Best Without Giving Them “The Best”

2016-01-27T16:14:54-04:00January 27th, 2016|Categories: Matthew Ruttan|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Life can get complicated. And expensive! If you have kids, you know there are infinite ways to spend money on them. To quote The Grinch Who Stole Christmas, “Pop guns! And bicycles! Roller skates! Drums! Checkerboards! Tricycles! Popcorn! And plums!” If that were written today the list might look a bit different: “Hockey [...]

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By The Time A Child Is Six

2015-11-04T15:20:09-04:00November 4th, 2015|Categories: Matthew Ruttan|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

By the time a child is six they are a living, walking blueprint of who they will be for the rest of their lives. Will they evolve and change? Yes. But have they already received the lion’s share of input for who they’ll become? Also yes. A study published in [...]

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Under the Weather

2015-10-19T18:31:07-04:00October 19th, 2015|Categories: Blogs, The Messy Table|Tags: , , |

  I’ve been holding a sick kid today. Poor Plum has been poorly. Just a run-of-the-mill October cold, but he isn’t really sure what’s hit him. At two years and a bit, he hasn't had many Octobers. Nor colds, come to think of it. He’s spent the day on the [...]

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