Our prayers to God are for those who are ill with this virus and for those who care for them, especially in countries that have been most affected. We also pray for health and frontline workers as they face their daily tasks. And we remember those communities and businesses that have been affected and any people facing discrimination as a result of the virus.
COVID-19 and Worship: Resources for Churches Adapting to Social Isolation – Calvin Institute of Christian Worship
Remote Ministry Resources – Association of Presbyterian Church Educators
Remote Faith Formation…For the Long Haul – Office of Christian Formation
Key Tips for Planning an Online Worship Service – Christian Reformed Church in North America
Small Groups and Social Distancing: Promoting Online Community – ChurchLeaders.com
Children’s Ministry: Options for Summer VBS 2020 – ChurchLeaders.com
Older Adult Ministry: Supporting Older Adults During COVID-19 – Presbyterian Older Adult Ministries Network
How do we handle requests for funerals when those who desperately need the opportunity to gather together, remember and celebrate the lives of their loved ones, and hear God’s Word of resurrection, hope and healing cannot do so without potentially exposing one another to harm?
Our first pastoral instinct may be to continue offering the ministry of physical presence and traditional group liturgies. But these are exceptional times. In the face of a global pandemic, our primary pastoral responsibility is to consider the health and safety of those we serve. No one has special immunity or protection from viruses and all people are to follow public health precautions and directives for physical distancing. Should a funeral request come, gently but firmly encourage postponement of the funeral or memorial service until restrictions for in-person gatherings have been lifted. This may not be an easy conversation to have with grieving people, but under the circumstances, it may be one of the most pastoral responses we can offer. It might be wise to bring this matter to the attention of the Session and communicate to the congregation that all funerals will be postponed until the end of public health restrictions so all will know in advance what to expect.
In the meantime, clergy and church leaders are invited to consider using existing technology to help people grieve and connect for mutual support. Some ministers are experimenting with “virtual visitations” where people can gather through online video conferencing to offer condolences to grieving family members, share memories and stories and pictures, and have a brief online time of scripture reading and prayer. Where the family is comfortable with the suggestion, ministers may even offer informal funeral services adapted to video conferencing. Ongoing pastoral conversations by telephone and online face-to-face meetings can help maintain personal contact with those journeying through grief.
None of this can ever be a substitute for physical presence, appropriate touch and community worship, which is so much a part of traditional pastoral care in times of grief and loss. We miss these important aspects of how we do ministry and yearn for a return to normal. Until then, in God’s grace and love, we adjust. We are an Easter people. Even in the shadow of death we believe that in Christ there is resurrection and new life.
The difficult days we find ourselves in will pass. In the meantime, we seek God’s comfort and presence in the community of faith as we find new ways to serve broken and hurting people.
If you have any questions, you are welcome to email the Rev. Tim Purvis.
Resources for Further Reading and Reflection:
Funerals Pose Challenges in Time of Social Distancing – Baylor University
Guide for Christian Funerals During COVID-19 – Massachusetts Council of Churches
Moderator Asks That Funerals Be Delayed – The United Church of Canada
Digital Pastoral Care for Grief: Individual & Collective – United Church of Christ